Wife's Day

Well, it's that time of year that I've come to actually dread.  I know I shouldn't and I do feel bad for how I feel about this, but honestly I feel I was defined as Chad's mom since 1988.  It is really hard for me to even feel like celebrating Mother's Day when I don't feel like a mom.  I know, I will always be his mom.  I've heard it a million times, but that does not change the fact that when I get up Sunday morning I won't be getting that phone call, visit, or card from him telling me happy Mother's Day.  I know I'm a surrogate mom to many and I am so grateful for that, but it still does not take the sting of not having Chad here away.
I know I should be focused on my moms and making this day for them special and in my heart that's what I want to do, but then all this other creeps in and makes it so hard that really all I would like to do is cry.
I'm so fortunate to have Tebo in my life and to understand how hard this is so in our house we have adopted the term "wife's day" instead.  I like that term better for me, but I know I can't take away from Mother's Day from my moms.  This is where I really battle with doing something for me or doing something with them.  I prefer to just stay home and be quiet with myself, but I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings and just not be with them so I find myself in quite the predicament. 
Suggestions are welcome if you have ever found yourself in this situation.  I can't promise I will apply them, but I will certainly consider them.
For all you out there that are moms, I would like to wish you an early happy Mother's Day!