So as a parent, I cannot imagine this and I am sure those of you who are parents will relate. Those that are not parents yet, you still have family and close friends that I know you can relate to this as well.
My daughter, Katie, is out in CA with Chad who will be deploying soon and he has been in basically back to back training since January which means she has been left alone for the most part for up to 45 days at a time. She has a couple of girls that he has made friends with, but they have their lives to live and apparently are not the visiting type much. That makes life in a new state and so far from home and family and friends so much harder.
Her biological family has basically treated her as though she doesn't exist anymore. Who the heck does that? I don't understand and I never will (nor do I want to). My heart breaks for her and I know Chad's does too. He doesn't want to worry about Katie being lonely while he is training or deployed and most men wouldn't have to worry about that because usually her family and friends would make sure she is taken care of and safe and happy. Tebo and I are doing our part and trying so hard to make sure she knows we love her as well as some of my family members, but sometimes it takes her own family to step up and be..... well, FAMILY! What is wrong with these people.
We are going to do everything we can to get them here for his pre-deployment leave and spend as much time with them as we possibly can. We don't even know if her family will even want or try to see them while they are here, but if they don't, it is their own loss. Then once he deploys, we will do whatever we can to help them do what they want to do and what is best for them. We are so upset that we can't make this go faster for them, but we can't. Yes, I know, they both knew this would be tough and that he had to leave again, but there is not one person in this world that can say that at the moment you wouldn't think it wouldn't be a big deal until you are in the midst of the situation and then you realize, wow, this is much harder than I thought it would be. I have to believe that in some way it wouldn't be as hard as it is on her right now if her family would step up and make her feel like they are still there for her. What is wrong with people these days? Our children (and family for that matter) is all we really have when it comes right down to it and honestly, I'm proud to call her my daughter.
We (as a country) talk so much about supporting our troops and trust me, I am so grateful for that. But let us not forget these wives that are out there not only supporting troops, but their husbands, and in some cases children while all the time trying to stay strong for their husbands and for family memebers. It is comforting to me as a mom to know that Katie is out there taking care of my son and making sure he is happy and healthy when I can't be there. We can't forget those wives. They are living this life just like our men are. These young women need their families and friends and while they do sometimes have each other out there, there are many times when they sit at home alone. It breaks my heart to know she sits there day in and day out all alone (even with others right there close) and the only company she does have is when I call her. She deserves better than that.
You hang in there my Katie Bug... Carly (what a precious friend) will be there soon and then you and Chad will be home and we will have our girl time while the guys go have their time. :) I can't wait. Love you.
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